Sounds like a combination of some shitty luck and simple incompatibility to me.
Women aren’t interchangeable. Dominant women, especially aren’t.
What we want, need, desire, look for, prey on… is going to be as individual as we are.
I tend to go for athletic, fit, rugged, masculine men. Some like more effeminate men. Some like average men. Some like… See where I’m going with that?
Penis size has absolutely nothing to do with submissiveness. Nothing.
I can’t speak for anyone else, but I like my fuckmeat to have… well meat to them, as well as stamina and endurance.
Depending on what it is you want from a D/s relationship, if you are actually looking for an ongoing relationship and not just a play partner or someone to abuse you for the night - I would suggest that you build friendships with women. Leave kink out of it, entirely, until you ascertain if there is a compatibility on a friendship level that has the potential for the romantic.
If you truly have a submissive nature and not just a submission fetish, it will shine through. Don’t worry about those that pass quick judgments based on your looks or cock size. Anyone worth having in your life will take the time to actually get to know you - and be known.
Pros and Cons? I’m going to have to go with preference. But let’s talk it through a bit.
I made up this little chart, I hope it’s helpful!
I love love love the internal condom.
I’m never going back, all hail internal condom!
Honestly, I haven’t really been a fan of internal/female condoms, but they are really great for a lot of people.