Thank you very much for writing and sharing your concern with me. I am sure it is feel like you are at a crossroads between who you are and what you believe, and that is a strain on your joy in both areas.
My thought is: If you can’t change your submission, and you can’t change the church - then you will have to change your perception - the way you think about things.
First - Use the best of both worlds in your life. When you are serving in submission, employ the honesty, generosity, and compassion that is supposed to be part of the Christian faith in your service. When you are in church/life - use the obedience, commitment and desire to serve that you have from submission.
Second - Focus. To my recollection, Church isn’t a time where you go and think about yourself. It’s a time to think about God and be in community with others who think about God. Place your mind on the things that draw you to your faith and get it off the one thing that seems contrary.
Third - Trust your God. True faith of any kind isn’t really about religion and rules -its about a relationship with a deity who knows and loves you. If you and your husband know God, you know that God knows you - and that the desire to submit is part of you both. What anyone else at church thinks doesn’t really matter and they don’t have to know/care/impact you.
As Yentl says when she’s closing the curtains to study, “I trust God will understand. I’m not so sure about the neighbors.”
Blessings and joy - in both worlds - to you.
I’m sure some of you are atheists and the subject of religion and BDSM conflicting isn’t that important to you, but if any of you are like me and sometimes struggle to reconcile the two, I found this very comforting.
I have two Thrill Solo G-Spot and Clitoral Vibrators (unopened in box!) I got for free when ordering plugs for my shop and they are regular 129.00!! They are waterproof,and charge with a usb ^_^ No batteries!
Just reblog this,seriously all,and at the end of the week I’ll pick two people :) Simple as that! I already have one, so I literally have zero use for these!!
Some time ago now, I mentioned that dominant bottoms are a thing. I think it’s worth going into a little more detail about just what I was talking about, because that’s kind of an oxymoron for a lot of people.
First of all, credit where it’s due: I got the idea of human sexuality & kinky interests as a number of separate spectrums from Midori, who teaches fantastic classes and who you should…