The Well-Rounded Toybox

All about the toys, from a queer, kinky fatty's perspective.
Asker Anonymous Asks:
My husband and I are both submissive. He serves a Mistress and I am a slave to a Master who lives in a nearby town. The problem is, we are both Christians and involved in our church. But we feel like such hypocrits when we are there.Our church would never accept what we do. We've tried to quit subbing and it didnt work. We can't quit church. Our pastor will talk about purity or faithfulness and we both feel like such sinners. What can we do?
wellroundedtoybox wellroundedtoybox Said:

softcollarswitches:

slavekate:

Thank you very much for writing and sharing your concern with me. I am sure it is feel like you are at a crossroads between who you are and what you believe, and that is a strain on your joy in both areas. 

My thought is: If you can’t change your submission, and you can’t change the church - then you will have to change your perception - the way you think about things. 

First - Use the best of both worlds in your life. When you are serving in submission, employ the honesty, generosity, and compassion that is supposed to be part of the Christian faith in your service. When you are in church/life - use the obedience, commitment and desire to serve that you have from submission. 

Second - Focus. To my recollection, Church isn’t a time where you go and think about yourself. It’s a time to think about God and be in community with others who think about God. Place your mind on the things that draw you to your faith and get it off the one thing that seems contrary.

Third - Trust your God. True faith of any kind isn’t really about religion and rules -its about a relationship with a deity who knows and loves you. If you and your husband know God, you know that God knows you - and that the desire to submit is part of you both. What anyone else at church thinks doesn’t really matter and they don’t have to know/care/impact you.  

As Yentl says when she’s closing the curtains to study, “I trust God will understand. I’m not so sure about the neighbors.” 

Blessings and joy - in both worlds - to you.

kate

I’m sure some of you are atheists and the subject of religion and BDSM conflicting isn’t that important to you, but if any of you are like me and sometimes struggle to reconcile the two, I found this very comforting.

deviantfemme:

largelabiaproject:

This is a diagram showing part of the internal structures of the clitoris and penis. Fascinating.

sara-meow:

I have two Thrill Solo G-Spot and Clitoral Vibrators (unopened in box!) I got for free when ordering plugs for my shop and they are regular 129.00!! They are waterproof,and charge with a usb ^_^ No batteries! 

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Just reblog this,seriously all,and at the end of the week I’ll pick two people :) Simple as that! I already have one, so I literally have zero use for these!!

Goodluck! 

(via miss-ghouls)

crusherccme:

found this gem in the 1996 Cornell Women’s Handbook. it’s what to say when a guy tries to get out of using a condom

(via safeword)

creepykuroneko:

fuckyeahsexeducation:

sexreeducated:

sexvxpositive:

Coconut oil makes a good oil-based lube if you’re not using protection or toys. It’s also an antifungal.

To people with vaginas, check your reaction to Coconut oil first as not everyone takes well to it. Do the same check if using it anally.

I think I reblogged this before but I always get questions on lube so it won’t hurt to reblog it again.

I didn’t know that one about the coconut oil

norhuu:

yesmissmori:

THINX Underwear:

OH SHIT YOU GUYS THIS COMPANY IS MAKING UNDERWEAR THAT IS STAIN RESISTANT, ANTIMICROBIAL, AND WILL ABSORB UP TO 6 TEASPOONS OF LIQUID BUT STILL LOOKS FUCKING SEXY

AND DID I MENTION THIS PART:

For every pair of THINX you buy, you help one girl in the developing world stay in school by providing her with seven washable, reusable cloth pads.

AND WHY IS THAT SUCH A BIG DEAL? HERE’S WHY:

After doing some research, Agrawal says she found that more than 100 million girls in the developing world were missing a week of school because of their periods, and using things such as leaves, old rags, or plastic bags in the place of sanitary pads.

THE SIZES RUN FROM XS TO XXL AND THE PRICES ARE NOT INSANE, THEY’RE OBVIOUSLY HIGHER THAN THOSE 5 FOR $10 SALES AT TARGET BUT YOU WON’T HAVE TO THROW THEM OUT BECAUSE YOU MISCALCULATED YOUR FLOW AND BLED ALL OVER THEM BEFORE YOU COULD GET TO A BATHROOM

I’M SORRY FOR SHOUTING I’M JUST REALLY EXCITED ABOUT THIS

LIKE HOLY FUCKBASKET IT’S ABOUT DAMN TIME

Yooooooo

I vascillated about posting this - what they’re doing sounds GREAT, but the panties only go up to XXL, and I am morally opposed to supporting anything that ignores the fact that fat people even exist. 

lastofthetimeladies:

knowledgeequalsblackpower:

themidwifeisin:

Check in at TheMidwifeIsIn.tumblr.com if you have any other questions.

There is also the Abortion Pill (Mifepristone).  It can be taken up to 9 weeks (but is most effective up to 7 weeks and check the laws in your state). It is comparable to a miscarriage and after getting the intial dosage from your medical service provider, you take the rest at home and go through the process at home.

This is super important, valuable information that I think many people don’t know. Also, when you go to an abortion clinic (I at least know this is true for Planned Parenthood) there’s a counseling meeting where you discuss the alternatives with a doctor and sign a consent form saying that abortion is what you really want. A lot of people who oppose abortion will want to tell you that abortion clinics and reproductive health centers will try to convince you to have the abortion, but that’s just not true. (I mean, only 3% of Planned Parenthood’s services are abortions. Family planning and community health centers like Planned Parenthood are often more concerned with prevention and awareness and other aspects of health. They’re more interested in helping you have options than they are in only giving you the one.)

Nor is it true that any medical center will throw the embryo away in a dumpster after the procedure. I’m sure none of you really thought that, but slander is a vicious thing that spreads and becomes true in the eyes of those who want to believe it because it fits into their agenda.

Additionally: know your rights. When I worked at Planned Parenthood, I learned that protesters are not allowed to be in front of the building or in the parking lot. They have to stay on the sidewalk, further away from the building. They are not supposed to try to convince you not to go into the building, nor can they physically block you from going in or follow you inside. You have to be let in by someone already in the building, which means that any appointment you have there - counseling, a check-up, a mammogram, an abortion, a testing - will be confidential and safe.

(via creepykuroneko)

notjustbitchy:

What on earth is a dominant bottom?

Some time ago now, I mentioned that dominant bottoms are a thing. I think it’s worth going into a little more detail about just what I was talking about, because that’s kind of an oxymoron for a lot of people.

First of all, credit where it’s due: I got the idea of human sexuality & kinky interests as a number of separate spectrums from Midori, who teaches fantastic classes and who you should…

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